Good sex is secret to Joe Biden's long marriage, new book on first lady says

He and Jill married in 1977, but it took five proposals from Biden to get Jill to agree.

U.S. President Joe Biden and first lady Jill Biden await the arrival of Jordan's King Abdullah, Queen Rania and Crown Prince Hussein, at the White House in Washington, U.S., February 12, 2024. (photo credit: KEVIN LAMARQUE/REUTERS)
U.S. President Joe Biden and first lady Jill Biden await the arrival of Jordan's King Abdullah, Queen Rania and Crown Prince Hussein, at the White House in Washington, U.S., February 12, 2024.
(photo credit: KEVIN LAMARQUE/REUTERS)

President Joe Biden has joked to aides that the key to a long and lasting marriage is "good sex," according to a new book about first lady Jill Biden that casts a spotlight on their 47-year romance.

"American Woman - The Transformation of the Modern First Lady, from Hillary Clinton to Jill Biden," was authored by New York Times White House correspondent Katie Rogers and comes out this week.

The part about sex takes up only a few paragraphs in the 276-page book but has already generated headlines.

Joe and Jill's romantic history

Rogers writes that Biden opted against running for president in 2004, a decision punctuated to aides when Jill Biden entered the room wearing a halter top with the word "NO" scrawled on her stomach.

Joe Biden, now 81, told a group of supporters that year that he had little interest in running for president. "I'd rather be at home making love to my wife while my children are asleep," he said.

 US PRESIDENT Joe Biden and First Lady Dr. Jill Biden attend the dignified transfer, earlier this month at Dover Air Force Base in Delaware, of the remains of three US service members killed in Jordan in a drone attack carried out by Iran-backed terrorists. (credit: JOSHUA ROBERTS/REUTERS)
US PRESIDENT Joe Biden and First Lady Dr. Jill Biden attend the dignified transfer, earlier this month at Dover Air Force Base in Delaware, of the remains of three US service members killed in Jordan in a drone attack carried out by Iran-backed terrorists. (credit: JOSHUA ROBERTS/REUTERS)

The comment drew a shrug from a spokesperson at the time who said then-Senator Biden was "frankly totally in love with his wife," Rogers writes.

"Joe may have tamped down on his public bedroom declarations (in) winning the presidency, but he has joked to aides that 'good sex' is the key to a lasting and happy marriage, much to his wife's chagrin," according to Rogers.

The book describes the anguish Joe Biden experienced when his first wife, Neilia, died in a 1972 car crash along with their daughter Naomi.

He and Jill married in 1977, but it took five proposals from Biden to get Jill to agree.

"I've been as patient as I know how to be, but this has got my Irish up. Either you decide to marry me or that's it - I'm out. I'm not asking again," Biden said on the fifth try, Rogers writes.