When was the last time you had sexual intercourse? Have you ever stopped to think if your sex life is considered normal? The definition of "normal" is quite broad, as what's normal for one person may be abnormal for another. A survey conducted by Sun Health in December 2022 found that most respondents (75%) engage in sexual activities less than once a week, and that's perfectly fine. Only 20% claimed to do it once or twice a week. Reasons for low sexual activity included fatigue (27%), lack of a partner (22%), or lack of time (19%).
A 2017 study in the "Archives of Sexual Behavior" found that adults, on average, engage in sexual activities once a week. The frequency was highest for those in their 20s (an average of 80 times a year) compared to those in their 60s (an average of 20 times a year). Generally, people have fewer sexual encounters as they age, according to the researchers.
Another study published in "Social Psychological and Personality Science," surveying over 30,000 Americans over 40 years, discovered that having sex once a week is the golden standard for happiness. Couples having sex more frequently didn't report being happier, while those having sex less than once a week felt less satisfied.
According to Marshall, a sex educator and head of the brand at Smile Makers, there are various reasons why comparisons shouldn't be made. She emphasizes that sexual desire varies widely among individuals and is influenced by factors such as menstrual cycles, menopause, medications, stress, mental health, and overall lifestyle. Sexual health is not about adhering to a consistent routine but rather about listening to our bodies and being aware of how sex and pleasure impact our well-being.
Sex is not just about feeling good; it contributes to our overall health. For instance, a study this year suggested that men who ejaculate more frequently (5 times a week) have a lower risk of prostate cancer. Whether alone (masturbation) or with a partner, numerous studies indicate that sex has a significant impact on our health. Here are some of the positive effects:
- Improves Sleep Quality:
Quality sleep is crucial for overall well-being, and sexual activity can play a significant role in enhancing it. A recent survey conducted by Smile Makers revealed that a staggering 77% of women use masturbation as a method to expedite falling asleep. This isn't merely a subjective claim; there's a physiological explanation behind it. Orgasms have been shown to elevate prolactin levels, a hormone associated with relaxation and satisfaction, creating the ideal conditions for a good night's sleep. The synergy between sexual pleasure and the release of hormones promotes a restful slumber, making sex a natural and enjoyable sleep aid.
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- Boosts Sexual Desire and Intimacy:
In moments where libido wanes and the spark of intimacy dims, engaging in sexual activity can serve as a catalyst to reignite desire. The dynamic interplay between physical intimacy and emotional connection during sex contributes to an enhanced sense of closeness between partners. Oxytocin, often referred to as the "love hormone," is released during sexual activity, fostering emotional bonding and intimacy. Thus, beyond its physical benefits, sex becomes a powerful tool to nurture and strengthen the emotional connection between individuals in a relationship.
- Enhances Overall Happiness:
In the quest for happiness, every bit counts, and sexual activity is no exception. The blend of "feel-good" hormones—endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin—released during sex creates a euphoric experience. These neurochemicals not only induce pleasure but also contribute to an improved mood and reduced stress levels. The positive impact on mental well-being extends beyond the immediate post-coital bliss, influencing an individual's overall perception of life and self-worth.
- Contributes to Brain Health:
The benefits of sexual activity extend beyond the realms of pleasure to positively impact cognitive function. According to the National Health Service (NHS), one in eleven individuals over the age of 65 in the UK suffers from dementia. Engaging in sexual activity has been identified as a potential ally in the fight against cognitive decline. The increased blood flow to the brain during sexual arousal provides a natural form of exercise for this vital organ. A study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that good sexual quality in adults aged 62 to 74 was associated with better cognitive function, and for those aged 75 to 90, more frequent sexual activity was linked to improved cognitive performance.
- Reduces the Risk of Prostate Cancer:
In the realm of men's health, sexual activity, whether through intercourse or masturbation, has been linked to a decreased risk of prostate cancer. A 2016 American study revealed that men in their 20s to 29s who ejaculated five times a week had a significantly lower risk of developing prostate cancer compared to those with a frequency of four to seven times a month. The study, tracking 32,000 men and their ejaculation habits, suggests a potential protective effect of sexual activity against one of the most prevalent cancers among men.
- Eases Menstrual Pain:
For individuals experiencing menstrual discomfort, orgasms can serve as a natural remedy. The endorphins and muscle contractions released during orgasm act as effective pain relievers. By alleviating tension and increasing blood flow to the pelvic region, sexual activity becomes a holistic approach to managing menstrual pain. This not only provides physical relief but also contributes to a more positive perception of menstruation, promoting a healthier relationship with one's body.
- Supports Heart Health:
Cardiovascular well-being is a cornerstone of overall health, and sexual activity has been associated with positive effects on heart health. A study published in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior indicates that a higher frequency of sexual activity is positively linked to a lower risk of cardiovascular events in men later in life. For women, maintaining a good sexual quality later in life appears to shield against cardiovascular risks. The cardiovascular benefits derived from sexual activity contribute to the broader spectrum of health advantages associated with a fulfilling and active sex life.
- Stress Relief and Hormonal Balance:
In the fast-paced modern world, stress has become a pervasive aspect of daily life. For one in every 14 adults, stress is a constant companion. However, sexual activity, whether through intercourse or masturbation, can serve as a potent stress-relief mechanism. When under stress, the brain releases cortisol, a hormone that raises blood pressure. Achieving orgasm, on the other hand, triggers the release of endorphins, which not only counteract cortisol but also contribute to an overall sense of well-being. A study published in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior found that sexual activity, classified as a form of physical exercise, helps lower stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline in both women and men. Beyond stress relief, the release of oxytocin during orgasm promotes emotional bonding, potentially fostering more stable relationships. Thus, sexual activity emerges as a holistic approach to not only alleviating stress but also maintaining hormonal balance for improved mental and emotional well-being.